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Behavior Management
In Child Development
Learning Style Inventory & Personality Profiling
Importance of Character Training
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The Onset Of
Substance Abuse
Parents do not have standards and principles established in their own life because of past dysfunction and a lack of respect for their own parents.
Because of inconsistencies in their life, parents have a hard time teaching their child the word no. The child then develops poor boundaries and has to many freedoms and choices.
Because of the parents lack of a standard and not knowing what to do, they begin to react to their children's behavior from the ages of 3 until about the age of 8 or 9. This reaction teaches the child all of what not to do, but never gives instructions about what to do.
This reaction continues until the child reaches physical puberty. When the child enters High School his response is "I can never please my parents so what's the use in trying." The child becomes filled with despair and begins to say "When I grow up, I'm not going to do to my kids what my parent's did to me." This reaction causes the child to shut down to any instructions from the parents and produces a poor perspective on life with difficulty in seven areas:
Self Worth Authority Responsibility Problem Solving Anger Control Morality This child has difficulty understanding the basis for true success.
The teen then begins to surround himself with others who think the way he thinks and who like his behavior. Without direction and with the anxiety associated with poor self worth, the teen becomes depressed, with drugs and suicide becoming an option. He then discovers that alcohol and drugs numbs his depression. Not knowing how to problem solve, causes an emotional shut down with clinical and conduct problems recognized by his parents and schools. Without help, the teen will develop the same difficulties as his parents and perpetuate the problem from generation to generation.
The Answer
Restore your relationship with your parents; ask for forgiveness and forgive them.
Develop standards and principles in your life and teach them to your child at a young age. Teach your child the meaning of the work NO.
Stop reacting and start responding. Teach your child what you want him to do, not what you don't want him to do. Research shows the brain deletes the word don't. So when you say don't do something, your child is hearing . . "Do It."
Start building a relationship with your child. Never say no if you can say yes. If you do say no to a request, offer a family alternative and spend the time with your child.
Realize that children are smarter than we give them credit for. Start early, realizing the concept o mental puberty. This is when a child starts to think like an adult. Give them the instructions you want them to have before someone else gives them the wrong information. Guard your children.
Build integrity into your family by being the instructional leader of your home by developing character, and by teaching behaviors of respect and responsibility.
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