ARE YOU REACTNG OR RESPONDING ?

WITHOUT INSTRUCTION TO GUIDE HIM A CHILD DEVELOPS NO STABLE FRAME OF REFERENCE FOR APPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR OR PROBLEM SOLVING. THE PERSON WHO REACTS WHENEVER THE CHILD MAKES A MISTAKE COMMUNICATES REJECTION TO THE CHILD AS A PERSON.

CONSEQUENTLY AS A TEEN ENTERS HIGH SCHOOL THEY OFTEN SAY " I DON’T DO ANYTHING RIGHT , I CAN NEVER PLEASE MY PARENTS OR TEACHERS NO MATTER HOW HARD I TRY , SO WHAT’S THE USE." THE REBELLION THEN STARTS. EVEN WHEN A TEEN COMES TO THE POINT OF WANTING TO CHANGE HIS BEHAVIOR, HE HAS NO FRAME OF REFERENCE.. THIS INCREASES THE PROBLEM AND THE DESPAIR.